How To Deal With Your Wife When She Is Too Emotional.
Apostle Peter, instructing men wrote: "Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered " (1 Peter 3:7).
Many men are ignorant of the emotional, physical and psychological constitution of women. This lack of understanding leads them to make wrong conclusions and unwise decisions. The Bible teaches that "wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom, and with all thy getting get understanding" (Prov. 4:7). Wisdom is applied knowledge. If you have no knowledge of how a woman is constituted, there is no way you can apply wisdom. Husbands need to know how their wives are emotionally constituted in order to "dwell with them according to knowledge."
Sekibo failed to appreciate his wife because he did not understand her mental and emotional constitution. Women are more personal than men. They have “a deeper interest in people and feelings - building relationships - while men tend to be more pre-occupied with practicalities that can be understood through logical deduction” (Joy of Committed Love, pp. 13 - 14).
It is not unusual for a newly married woman to cry because of the old relationships she may be leaving behind. Besides, any change of environment or possibility of establishing new relationships requires cautious consideration. A woman takes more time and effort to adjust to changes that affect her relationships.
Furthermore, to uproot a woman from her familiar environment to another place can destabilize her emotional identity. Men rarely "leave to cleave" to their wives as the Scriptures instruct. It is the woman who has to leave her maiden name, her parents, her home and sometimes her job to "cleave" to the husband in a new environment. Tears easily flow from a wife's eyes when her sacrifice is not appreciated or when she is unduly criticized or misunderstood after so great a sacrifice.
While men express their anxiety and hostility physically, women do so emotionally. They may sulk, seek attention and then cry when they are not attended to. All this may seem childish to the uninitiated. Yet it takes understanding to read a woman's moods, and to overcome what may look like an emotional tantrum.
There are many physical differences between men and women. Women get tired more easily than men. Their blood contains more water than the blood of men. They also have 20% less red blood cells than men. Given the fact that these cells carry oxygen to the cells in the body, it is not surprising that women are more easily tired than men. Criticising a tired woman can spark off emotional low-points.
Some men think their wives are out of their minds when they ask for help in doing housework. Others don't see why their wives need house helps when they have all day to be home. Women become "childish" in their utterances when they are either denied the help of their husbands to fix things at home or the right of using house helps. The truth is that an average man has 50% more natural strength than the woman. It is also instructive to note that a man's body weight is made up of 40% muscles while that of the woman is made up of 23%. Furthermore a woman's heart beats more rapidly at the average rate of 80 beats per minute, unlike the man's measured at 72 beats.
No wonder Peter instructed husbands to dwell with their wives in knowledge and to honour them as "the weaker vessels".
Culled From: HOW TO BEAT YOUR WIFE By Dr. Steve Ogan